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Therapy for Anxiety & Perfectionism in Newport, Oregon
Helping you move beyond chronic worry, overthinking, and self-doubt so you can navigate life with greater calm, confidence, and self-trust.
Are Worry, Overthinking, and Self-Doubt Keeping You Stuck?
You may spend hours replaying conversations, second-guessing decisions, worrying that you've disappointed someone, or saying yes when you wanted to say no because letting someone down feels harder than pushing through. Rereading an email or text one more time feels safer than hitting send. Relaxing can be difficult because your mind is already thinking about tomorrow, next week, or everything that could go wrong.
From the outside, you may seem calm, responsible, and capable. Inside, it can feel like you're carrying the pressure of getting everything right. Mistakes feel bigger than they are, and it's hard to believe you've done enough, even after your best effort.
You may recognize yourself in some of these experiences:
Replaying conversations long after they've ended
Second-guessing your decisions and wondering whether you made the right choice
Worrying about disappointing other people
Feeling responsible for everyone else's well-being and finding it difficult to relax until everyone else is okay
Finding it difficult to relax because your mind is preparing for what could happen next.
Feeling like you should be handling things better than you are
Setting impossibly high standards for yourself
Feeling guilty whenever you put your own needs first
What Therapy Can Offer
Living with chronic worry, overthinking, and self-criticism can be exhausting. When your mind constantly tries to anticipate problems or avoid mistakes, it's hard to feel present or trust that you've done enough.
Together, we'll explore the patterns, beliefs, and habits that contribute to chronic worry, perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. Therapy helps you develop new ways of responding to anxiety while building greater self-trust and self-compassion.
Over time, you may notice spending less energy replaying conversations, preparing for every possible outcome, or worrying about disappointing others. Decisions become easier, and uncertainty more manageable, so you can spend more time living the life you want instead of constantly preparing for what might happen next.
My Approach
I believe anxiety isn't something to be fought or avoided. Together, we'll explore new ways of responding to worry, self-doubt, and perfectionism while helping you build greater self-trust, self-compassion, and confidence in navigating life's uncertainties.
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RO-DBT helps people who tend toward perfectionism, excessive self-control, and emotional overcontrol become more open, flexible, and connected. Rather than focusing on doing more or trying harder, you'll learn skills to cultivate greater authenticity, deepen relationships, and respond to life's challenges with openness and self-compassion.
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Anxiety and perfectionism are often fueled by patterns of thinking that keep you stuck in cycles of worry and self-criticism. CBT helps identify those patterns, gently challenge unhelpful beliefs, and develop more balanced ways of responding to difficult situations.
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Many people have spent years believing they need to be harder on themselves, meet everyone else's expectations, or put their own needs last in order to be enough. My work incorporates self-compassion and mindfulness to help you respond to yourself with greater kindness while building confidence in your own judgment and your ability to navigate uncertainty.
What Working Together Looks Like
Frequently Asked Questions
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Yes. Some people have spent so many years replaying conversations, second-guessing decisions, or preparing for every possible outcome that it feels like part of who they are. Therapy isn't about changing your personality. It's about helping worry and self-doubt take up less space so you can make decisions with greater confidence and spend more time engaged in your life.
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Perfectionism often creates pressure to get everything right, avoid mistakes, or hold yourself to impossible standards. Together, we'll explore where those expectations came from and work toward responding to yourself with greater flexibility, self-compassion, and self-trust.
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It can be. People-pleasing often looks like saying yes when you'd rather say no, worrying about disappointing others, or putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own. Therapy can help you build healthier boundaries, feel more confident making decisions, and begin to trust that your own needs matter, too.
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Knowing you're worrying doesn't always make it easier to stop. The goal isn't to eliminate all anxiety. It's to help you feel less controlled by it and more able to engage fully in the life you want.
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No. You don't need to experience panic attacks or a mental health crisis to benefit from therapy. If worry, overthinking, perfectionism, self-doubt, or people-pleasing make it difficult to enjoy your life or trust yourself, therapy can help.
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If you're looking for a more compassionate way to respond to anxiety, perfectionism, or people-pleasing, this approach may be a good fit. A free consultation is an opportunity to talk about your experiences, ask questions, and decide whether working together feels like the right next step.
Ready to Take the Next Step?
Anxiety can make you feel like you always need to be on guard, preparing for what might happen next. Therapy offers a chance to step out of that cycle, build greater trust in yourself, and spend more time living the life you want.